What Counselling is all about
Many people go through times when they are struggling with what is going on in their lives. Relationships change, work can be challenging, families can be difficult, or maybe we lose someone we love. Nothing stays the same. Sometimes our usual ways of coping seem to let us down and we feel confused or lost. It doesn’t feel good when we don’t know what to do. There are always other solutions once we know how to look.
When you feel anxious, unhappy or depressed, that stops you functioning well and is miserable. You may find it helpful to talk to a counsellor. As an experienced counsellor, I am trained to listen without judging you and help you to think about your problem in a variety of ways. Seeing a problem from a new angle can help you understand yourself and the problem better. That in turn will allow you to see new possible solutions and a new sense of hope.
Counsellors rarely give ‘advice’. They help you to move ideas around to enable you to find a personal solution that feels right for you.
If you’d like to explore things further with me, then give me a call and we can have a brief chat and if you choose, arrange to meet for an Initial Assessment. You can email me if you prefer in the first instance.
I see individuals, couples (married, co-habiting or separated) (heterosexual or same-sex) and young people from 12+, without prejudice to culture, race, religion, age, ability, sexuality or gender.
I can see you alone if you’d like to have some space just for yourself, or if you are married or in a relationship of any kind and want to come together, I am happy for us to start to talk with you both together. We begin from where you choose to start and take it from there. I’m there to listen to what you want to talk about, to try to understand what you are finding difficult and the kind of help you are looking for.
What Happens: If you have never been to see a counsellor before you might feel a bit anxious or apprehensive. Many people feel that way at first. I am here to help put you at your ease. An Initial Assessment is simply a first meeting where you can begin to tell me what you have been worried about and possibly, if you know, what you want to happen. I will think with you about how any further counselling sessions might be helpful and we can talk about and decide what you might want to do next.
On-going Counselling involves a regular commitment to meet and work together, normally for one hour each week. We agree a day and time and this will then be your time unless we agree to change it. If you work a shift system or are away on business on occasions, I aim to be as flexible as I can to accommodate this. Some people want to work for a limited number of sessions others may choose to work with more flexibility enabling more in-depth thinking. Some may be looking at long term work. Whatever the decision, we will review the work at regular intervals and assess how you feel things are going. We agree when it feels right to end.
Telephone Counselling: When it is difficult to access Face-2-Face counselling, telephone sessions may be something we could look at. If this is something you are considering, I am happy to talk this through with you.
Some people choose to work for a limited number of sessions, others will choose to work in a way that allows for more flexibility. For some, between 6 and 12 sessions feels about right, some have fewer and others considerably more. Whatever the decision, we will review the work at regular intervals and assess how you feel things are going and agree when it feels right to end.
Between Sessions: What happens after each counselling appointment? Well, it is always useful just to notice the ideas and feelings that come up for you and bring those back to your next session.
What you do between sessions is very important. Bringing your thoughts, ideas or reflections on your response to each session plays a very important part in the therapeutic process.
COMMON PROBLEMS BROUGHT TO COUNSELLING
- Marriage Preparation
- Relationship Problems
- Communication Difficulties
- Separation & Divorce
- Cultural Issues
- Family Transitions: for example:
- Adjusting to a new baby.
- Children becoming teenagers.
- Children leaving home.
- Adjusting to becoming just two again.
- Our family is splitting up.
- Parenting Apart.
- Helping children deal with loss.
- Managing becoming Step-Parents.
- My Mum/Dad is getting married again.
- Going through IVF treatment.
- Bereavement, Loss and Grief.
- Stress & Anxiety
- Low Mood and Depression.
- Past or Current Abuse: (Physical, Emotional, Sexual, Control etc.)
- Individual & Personal Development
- Loss of Identity.
- Low Self-Esteem.
- Low Self-Confidence.
- Understanding Relationships.
- Sexuality & Gender Concerns.